Our original relationships form the foundation of how we relate to ourselves. This early modeling then becomes the basis for how we treat others.

Essentially, couples counseling assists in undoing our inner wiring so that we can fully connect to our true self and create genuine, loving relationships.

My marriage counselor practice in Manhattan, NYC, assists many people who experience challenges in expressing their authentic feelings for fear of rejection. Yet, if we don’t express these feelings, we end up walking on egg shells and living in a subtle state of anxiety. My marriage counseling teaches authentic self-expression and listening skills so that understanding and empathy can be felt and conveyed. This creates a sense of freedom and an awareness of the impact we have on those close to us.

In your couples counseling work, you are taught to take responsibility for what is occurring in your relationship. This reduces victim-hood (it’s his/her fault) and increases personal ownership of the dynamic being co-created. In marriage or couples counseling, the results are a mutually respectful relationship with less destructive emotional cycles. You'll begin to focus on bringing out the best instead of the worst in each other.

Overall, my couples/marriage counseling approach fosters the development of self-differentiation while, at the same time, increases our capacity for healthy attachment. This means being able to be close and intimate without sacrificing or losing oneself. My work with you identifies the areas of enmeshment that dilutes passion thereby increasing desire and emotional connection for greater intimacy.

Finally, my guidance assists in the healing process between families, couples, and friends so that we become more aware of our actions/reactions, express greater empathy and return to love by deeply opening our hearts.